why i dont ever have luck in my love life
 

im about to give up on love,:cry::cry: this is the 4th girl ive loved, and she started out so nice but suddenly says she doesnt wana get involved and stops communication. how do i get her back as i know she does like me.:dunno:

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Never give up, its happens to many, it takes a while and then when you least expect it, BOOM! It happens.

But I need more info to help you from a womans point of view. How and where do you meet them? How do you treat them? <<<Be honest or I cant help you. Do you do something they may not like. Do you smoke? drink? gamble? swear? and any of them do not? or have you an irritating habit? which all, or some of them may have hinted about?

As I said be honest with me, so we can maybe work out the problem and I can advise you. ;)

How long has each relationship lasted?

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Just always be yourself & not worry about finding the right woman. When the right time comes, love will find you.

Like the J. Giles Band tune--Love Stinks-- & sometimes it does. Just hang in there. Don`t push or rush it.

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Hi,
I'm a few months short of 65 and my last and second marriage ended about 25 years ago. I've come close once or twice to a third turn before the mast, but never quite made it as I saw the mistake I was about to make, before it was too late.
Now, cynic that I am, I make friends with women and enjoy whatever treats come my way and when we move apart, we do so as friends - but I enjoy my freedom and wish, in hindsight, that I'd never married. My first wife left me for a fella 2 years older than her oldest son (no competition there) and the 2nd one had me insured to the hilt and tried to get me to kill myself for the Insurance payout and she did that after 5 to 6 years with each of her ex spouses...sometimes she got a win and sometimes (like me) she did not. Personally, I think the women of today, with a few exceptions, are chasing the mighty Buck and if you happen to be the vehicle they use to get it, at your eventual expense, then you are better off without them.
As a final advice, have a look at her mother. Could you live with her mother now? If the answer is no, then get your running shoes on and do a runner while you still can - by the same token, from a woman's point of view, have a look at his Dad and then do a runner if you can't stand the idea of living with his Dad now - because, whatever and which sex - that's what your intended is going to look like and be like and nothing you can say or do will change that, with relations to how they live with and treat you.
I had a look at my second wife's to be, mother and she past my tests with flying colours. It was only after we got married, my beloved wife, happened to mention her @mother@ was her stepmother and I never got to see her real mother (nor would I have wanted to, as it happens)
LOL BigBenn LOL

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I have to agree with bigbenn. I know I`m better off without getting involved other then friendship.

Here is a song that is very true about love sometimes:

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i have learn that, when you are looking for the right Lady then it will not cross you'r road.
So it is Simple STOP Looking and hunting for the right one and she will come :)

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If you love something set it free if it returns...............lock it in the closet!!!

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So where are you Evilovum????? all this good advice and you never came back???

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thanx for the responses. i dont drink or gamble or smoke or swear or insult or flirt around or oogle other women. the past breakups happened long time ago, its this current one i care about. the thing is,she respects her family too much and from the begining she thought the mother wouldnt accept marriage between us due to vast cultural and social differences. i told her lets just carry on and when the time comes we'll see how we handle the situation. i feel there may be 2 possible reasons for her to break communication. she may not want me to get too deeply involved and then get hurt when we cant end up together. or she may be afraid if we continue the way we were she may get too deeply involved with me and if in the end we have to part ways she may be tooo hurt.
you're a lady so maybe you can give me more insight into what ive said.im planning to send her either a long email or long text message tonight to try and get her to talk to me about this whole situation and maybe try and get things back to the way they were.thats about 11hours away. ill check back for your reply in a short while

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well 1stly what happend? 2ndly i know how ya feel i pretty much stopped looking altogher as well. so my take on it is what you said Ladybbird i am hoping since i stopped looking that i'll meet someone but my problem is

i don't really get out much, since i can't drive & there's no women at work i'd date. if you see these women you would'nt date them either! it's not just looks mind you. i don't think it always has to do with the rents to be honest.

because my brother married a woman that i respect. & she's like family to us.

her dad to keep it clean here he he. is a prick. i have other words in mind he he. her mom is nice though. but a little odd she's dating & lives with a guy who needs to i think live in a group home to be honest.

though he's got dementia now from what i hear. he was an idiot before we found out about that. which is recently actually that we found out. anyways.

my point is my sister-in-law is pretty normal considering her rents. how that happend is BEYOND ME? she has a lousy bum for a father. & though she's close to her mom. her mom isn't to bright on some things. she's real nice mind you. but i just mean she's got her faults. so my point is, it's NOT always

the rents. as for marriage i hope to get married someday & have a kid or two. but at 32 i am not really expecting anything. though i've pretty much given up on love. it's not because i'm 32. it's cause i've had my heartbroken to many times as well.

& i just well SNAPPED i guess. so i try & take it one day at a time. somtimes that works & sometimes it doesn't. ya know?